Tantra or simply bliss?
I recently came across the term ‘Venus butterfly’ and the context intrigued me. Those two words conjure delicious imagery – two gorgeous beings, one the epitome of feminine sensuality, the other a beautiful creature with her wings spread.
So, what is a Venus Butterfly?
Apart from a mysterious sexual technique mentioned – but not described – in LA Law back in 1986, the term was used in 2005 by sex educator Sue Johanson to describe pleasure given to a woman by her partner – using both hands and tongue. The fingers of one hand being used to caress the woman internally while the tongue stimulates the clitoris, and the fingers of the other hand caress the perennial area – which may include anal penetration.
Back in 1988 a technique described as the Venus Butterfly featured in the book ‘The One Hour Orgasm’. I haven’t been able to find an accurate description of this method online, so darn it, I’ll just have to read the book! My copy is winging its way to me as we speak.
The descriptions on-line weren’t very clear, but this is how I interpret what I found…
The pleasure ‘victim’ lays down, with her partner sitting so their legs are positioned around each other (the notes said next to each other, but I’m thinking opposite would be better?) With gentle pressure, the partner stimulates the clitoris or the clitoral hood with a touch as light as a butterfly’s wing with one hand, and a finger inserted and resting inside the vagina (not clear if resting means not moving, or also lightly stimulating). The technique involves the use of light pressure at a consistent speed to caress the clitoris, which is slowed or stopped just before orgasm is achieved. The light caress starts again once arousal drops off, and ceases again before orgasm. The process continues as long as the victim can stand the torture, and then she is released to extreme pleasure.
The point of this technique is to draw out orgasm. The pleasure of a quick orgasm is felt in the genitals, but slow orgasms are felt throughout the entire body – and last longer. Also called surfing, edging or peaking.
As usual, I’ve consulted wikipedia:
‘Since orgasm control prolongs the experience of powerful sexual sensations occurring during the final build-up to orgasm, the physical demands of being kept or keeping oneself in this highly excited state for an extended time can induce a pleasurable, almost euphoric state.’
Which sounds similar but not as serious as Aleister Crowley’s Eroto-comatose lucidity, or sex magic, which involves bringing the ritualist to ‘a state between full sleep and full wakefulness as well as exhaustion, allowing the practitioner to commune with their god’ by multiple aides.
Oh, and Venus Butterfly is the name of a sex toy as well… of course 😊